Sometimes we get confused about the advises we receive. This happens when we are taking our first steps into a new page of our life. Suppose that your learning a new instrument or you are in your first weeks in the college or university. Many words, guidance, signs, locations, jargon used between those in this field for years are merely sounds with no meaning. Maybe we try to foresee what could those words mean from our library. Few months or lessons later we either get shy from what we were understanding in the beginning or we turn it into a joke . This applies to almost everything even when we start to listen to spiritual guidance.We usually listen to spiritual teachers advising us to be balanced but, many times we feel ourselves drifted into an extreme. Here comes our question for today, How to balance our reaction to the influences from our environment so we don’t resist but at the same time we don’t surrender to it?
What Influences our life?
That’s a great point to start. When we know what influences our life, we can understand how to react to it. Circumstances, people, things and events are the most influencers on our timeline. In this chat we shall focus on how to be balanced in our reaction to them.We had detailed their contribution to our environment in previous chats that you can return to below here:
Avoid generalization by being conscious
Let we start by a basic definition of consciousness from Sceintific American
Consciousness is everything you experience. It is the tune stuck in your head, the sweetness of chocolate mousse, the throbbing pain of a toothache, the fierce love for your child and the bitter knowledge that eventually all feelings will end.By Christof Koch on June 1, 2018 on Sceintific American
That’s Consciousness but what is generalization? Generalization is to throw our perception or an inherited perception to a complete group without being conscious that there is no absolute perception about one thing. What we see as absolutely true is our own perception that we stuck to. Sometimes even we resist any opposing opinion to it. This was explained very nicely by Deepak Chopra in the following quote:
We become more and more entangled in our stories, and in this tangle, we forget how stories are made and unmade. Someone who always votes with a leftist party and cannot abide the views of the rightist party—and vice versa—has become entangled in a construct (politics) that can become all-consuming.How Reality Is Made: The Play of Consciousness
By Deepak Chopra, MD
To avoid generalization means to hold an opinion but to be flexible at the same time to accept that my opinion is true and may have flaws , and your opinion , even I see it as wrong, may hold some truth in it. The trick is to stand outside all stories and to start tracing them back to perception and interpretation. That’s consciousness. It is how aware are you of your opinions, reactions, perceptions, generalizations , and how ready are you to view them as a third person and to question their origin. Then to decide consciously whether to keep or change this perception based on how it supports or limits you. Creating a personal reality through our believes doesn’t make us isolated or solipsistic as long as we are consciously experiencing what is influencing our life. That is what makes us more complete and freer as human beings.
Don’t resist but don’t surrender to Fear influences
Now you know that circumstance, people, things and events influence your life in a way that you may long for a certain outlook when you see it admired on other person. Also they influences you to resist something to happen in your life e.g. you are afraid that another lock down will stop your small business and you will lose your investment.
Let us take the second example and build an illustration on it. When you are so afraid that you feel tied up and can do nothing. And, this idea and feeling are from some future condition that is still to occur but the collective awareness is believing in it. Then, you are at the same time resisting this condition and surrendering to the collective expectation about it. This situation drains your energy from what serves you and add it up to the pendulum that doesn’t serve you.
Now, to continue thinking in that doesn’t serve you is nonsense because you are repeating the idea more and more to deepen it inside your consciousness. Then, let this idea exist don’t resist it but don’t surrender to it and think a new idea that serves you. Think that you will find a way to continue your business even if a lock down occurred. When you are in the midst of the collective consciousness, it is not an easy job to create creative idea from within the consumed, the not supporting and,the frightening ideas that are repeated and repeated. There are many ways to go out of this deadly trap and to select a different destination for you. We shall simplify two ways below.
Rescue method one:
Ask your self positive questions about how you want your present and future to look like. A Negative questions means you ask how something will not happen, that’s a negative question. A positive question to ask what are the good things that will happen in your timeline? or to ask What I can do to make my business prosper?
It might seem difficult but that’s the most efficient because you open your consciousness to receive in your environment answers that supports the direction you want through circumstances, people, things and events.
Rescue Method two:
When you find it difficult to ask what you want specially when it is contradicting to the collective consciousness, then, write what you don’t want on the left side of a paper. This should be easy because you are focusing on it all the time. You don’t want this and this and that to happen. Write what you want to happen instead of each item the right side of the paper. Example, I want my self and all my customers to be free to move out of their homes, is opposite to: I don’t want a lock down. Another example, I want to reach people in their homes, is opposite to: No one will come to my shop. Cut the left side of what you don’t want and tear it into pieces. Focus on the right side and repeat it to yourself many times a day. Your obedient reflection environment will start to shape itself to bring you what you focus on i.e. what you want which is simply what serves you best.
Our environment influences our life through the programming of our subconscious mind with generalized ideas. Those generalizations blocks our view of alternatives to the existing and prospected events on the time line. This way we live an expected life as all those who surrender to the collective consciousness. On the other hand, when we resist the huge energy of the collective consciousness we drain our energy and add it to the pendulum created by the resistance and support of this generalized idea or destination. The escape is in changing our attention to what we really want in our life and to ignore the society second-hand and fearful perspective of the future. We shared together a couple of exercises that will help us reach a life filled with what we love. Stay safe and believe in a better tomorrow, you are the only one capable of creating it in your life. Next time we shall chat around how to Don’t Resist but don’t surrender to desires.
Recommended Readings and training:
Mindfulness in the digital age – Jon Kabat-Zinn